Tomorrow is Father’s Day.
I plan to spend the morning with my dad, playing a relaxing round of golf with hundreds of other fathers who have been granted a free pass from mowing the lawn and cleaning out the gutters, or whatever household chores need to be done.
And if we are lucky, there will be beer.
Tomorrow will be my sixth Father’s Day, and I’ve been thinking about how I can be a good father to my kids as they get to that age where all-day school and drama with friends and girl problems become a reality in our house.
As a father, the greatest thing I can teach them (hopefully by example) is to treat others with respect and kindness.
On this blog, I’ve written a post that probably would have been more beneficial if it stayed in the Draft folder. To put it out on the Web was akin to saying it out loud to my friends. I never meant to offend anyone, but my urge to speak my mind got the better of me that day.
As it relates to my kids, I want them to know that while it’s okay to speak their mind, there’s a time and a place. Find a best friend who you can bitch to, then leave it there. Not everyone needs to know what you’re thinking at all times. A little mystery never hurt anyone.
As I write this, my daughters are sitting on the couch together, bonding over an app on our iPad. Even though I don’t want technology to dominate their lives, there’s really no way around the ways in which it will make their lives easier. It’s a new wrinkle in parenthood that my parents could only begin to understand. In a similar way to how e-mail separated my generation from my parent’s, there is still something to come that I will not understand, but my kids will adapt to quickly. And when that comes, I fear it will create a gulf of misunderstanding between us, but that’s another blog post entirely.
If you’re a dad, take some time tomorrow to enjoy yourself. Hopefully your wife will give you some much needed “You” time, because there’s something to be said about being alone with yourself for part of the day.
If you’re not a dad, wish another dad a happy Father’s Day. Tomorrow is our day. It comes around once a year, complete with hand-made cards and tiny mementos that were crafted by the hands of babes.
Tomorrow is our day. I raise a beer in your honor.